Tuesday, 14 October 2014

Why I Like || THE SINGLE STATUS




This sums up my relationships so far.

As someone who was in relationships from the age of 14 until a few months ago, being single was a strange new lifestyle change that came out of nowhere.

In May this year I suddenly became single and in a bid to get over the horrendous break up I jetted off to America to work at a Summer Camp for two and a half months (not planned). Some people have praised me for this, saying I was strong and that it must have been a great way to get through the break up, however I don't think this was a good way for me to cope. In three weeks I got hired, I got my visa and I jetted off to America ignoring any feelings of sadness I had. I didn't get upset, I simply ignored the fact that a huge part of my life had disappeared. This means that while in America I was on auto pilot, while I was doing it it didn't feel like I was actually there and when I got back from my amazing experience in America, little by little I fell apart. I've come to the conclusion that this is because of all the feelings of hatred and sadness I boxed up in my head, this created a cloudiness.

But now I'm ok, I dealt with the feelings, I'm not saying I'm cured from the heartbreak but I'm concentrating on the good things, life is pretty good right now, a lot better than it was when I was in a relationship. And as I'm writing this I feel like a weight is being lifted off my shoulders.

Why I'm enjoying the single status right now

When I come home from work I can jump into a lovely warm bed all to myself. Starfishing anyone?

I don't have to religiously shave my legs. It's nice not having to shave my legs every week.

I have plenty of time to myself, to look after myself. Gym? yes, please.

I can work on myself, emotionally and physically. Develop my identity.

I spend more time with my girls. Dinner dates.

I can do whatever I like. Socially acceptable or not.

I'm experiencing new experiences and taking opportunities I never could have.

I'm dedicating myself to things that matter and will benefit me.



I'm becoming a better person, a more independent person and I'm enjoying life a whole lot more than I ever could of imagined. It looks like I'm going back to America next year and I'm looking into doing a couple more life changing experiences.

15 comments:

  1. This is such an honest and personal post, I really like it! Great points and great quotes too! Abi :)
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    1. Thanks Abi! I'm glad you liked it! Took me ages to pick the relevant quotes!

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  2. I seriously need to start getting myself to the gym hahaha!

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    1. You can do it if you put your mind to it!

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  3. It's always good to concentrate on the good things.. makes a huge difference.
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    1. Thank you for another lovely comment Jasey. It's working well for me so far!

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  4. Nice post! I dealt with a horrendous break up myself few months back. But now I am super happy & believe things happen for the best!

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    1. Hi Ezzy! Things definitely happen for a reason, I totally agree with you! Looks like we're on the same page.

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  5. This is pretty much my experience in a nutshell too. I broke up with my long term boyfriend a couple of months ago, and immediately rebounded with random people that just made everything worse. Only now am I really starting to feel and embrace being single, and it's hard sometimes. I'm still dealing with grief. But focusing on me and feeling free is so liberating. Really can't wait for more of your wisdom!! Xxx

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